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2.07.2010

"If it is not (Tough) Love, don't give it, and don't accept it." SL (favorite saying)

"If it is not Tough Love,
don't give it, and don't accept it." 
SL
(favorite saying, inspired by Gandhi's
Golden Rule; and Corr. 1, Ch 13)

My Hunger Striking friend has been Hospitalized, Day 36 - Immigrtation Reform

I was worried having not heard from him since Thursday.

Youth Rally & Mass for Life 2010 - Hunger Striker Risks All for his Brothers & Sisters

Today I heard from him mid day, an urgent email asking for help.
I biked across town (not real smart as the roads are unplowed
:-(  ) and spent the afternoon assisting him before racing back
for my evening shift at the White House.

Thursday night he awoke in his homeless shelter screaming in
pain - extreme muscle spasms.  They rushed him to the hospital
in an ambulance.  Against their wishes he signed himself out mid morning and
made the rounds of every Congressional and Senate office
because he has scheduled a prayer vigil in front of the White
House Tuesday and needed to make the requests Friday of
each office to attend.  He collapsed several times, but by days
end had delivered the announcement to every office.  He
expects to do the same Monday. I don't know if he will make it,
but I'll not bet against his will.

He had a major article in one of the major spanish dailies last
week and the head of the Mexican news association, is an
admirer from the days he was tortured by the Mexican
government - and this afternoon Macias and I wrote the article
they will put out tomorrow.

"Start, why are you so NOT-PLEASANT?!?!" At a raging fire is a firefighter pleasant?

"Start, why are you so NOT-PLEASANT?!?!" 

At a raging fire is a firefighter pleasant?
Of course not.  In fact, if one stopped for pleasantries
with the onlookers they'd be fired, right?

Well, as God is my witness, that is what is going on with Start.
I see train wrecks, car crashes, attack victims, abuse victims,
starving children, dying children... all around me, ALL THE TIME.
I don't ever NOT SEE THEM.  I AM NEVER NOT TRYING TO SAVE
THEM.

Others don't see them - they can't, won't or simply care not to,
except when it is convenient.
I don't interfere with the onlookers, or avoiders, or pretenders.
NOR DO I ENABLE THEM. 
NOR DO I ALLOW THEM TO DISTRACT ME.
NOR DO I PARTICIPATE IN THEIR DENIAL, AVOIDANCE, FANTASY...
NOR DO I STOP FOR PLEASANTRIES WITH THEM.

Not those I encounter in DC.
Not those I encounter online, all day long.

AND SOMETIMES I'LL A BIT ROUGHLY PUSH THEM OUT OF THE WAY
OF MY WORK.  IF IT WERE YOUR HOUSE ON FIRE, IF IT WERE YOUR
FAMILY IN PERIL, THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU WOULD DEMAND OF ME.  BUT
FOR MOST OF YOU, YOU DON'T SEE THAT IT IS.

I ASK NO ONE TO TOLERATE ME.

I ASK NO ONE TO PUT UP WITH ME.

I INSIST ON BASIC CIVILITY OF MYSELF TO EVERYONE, BUT I WILL
NOT ALLOW MY WORK TO BE DISRUPTED, OR INTERFERED WITH.

I EXPECT NO ONE TO PUT UP WITH ME. I FIGHT ALONE AS LONG AS NECESSARY.
I'LL FIGHT WITHOUT ANY AND ALL RESOURCES IF OTHERS CHOOSE TO SUPPLY NONE,
OR TO TAKE AWAY WHAT I HAVE.

I ALWAYS LEAVE WHEN ASKED, OR WHEN I SEE THAT THE FIREFIGHTING
FOCUS OF THIS OLD GUY IS NOT WELCOME.

THE ABOVE ABOUT ME WILL CHANGE - IT WILL GET WORSE.


2.04.2010

SL here. FRIIENDS - HUGE!!!

Wayyyy beyond ADD and Addiction - THIS is the BASIC human
psychology we must OWN to be effective change agents.

EVERYTHING you work for is based on PEOPLE, right?

I'm trained in psych at the Masters level, and read well beyond
the PHD level. 

THIS IS SOME OF THE ONLY "TRUE" PSYCHOLOGY I'VE SEEN.

IT APPLIES TO ... EEEEVVVVRRRRYYYYYTTTTHHHIIIINNNGGGG.

DN! Roots of Addiction and ADD (2)

Start

2.03.2010

"The 2nd 'Standard' is Violence - Always. NO DOUBLE STANDARDS." SL

"The 2nd 'Standard' is Violence - Always. 
NO DOUBLE STANDARDS."
  SL

Exactly as without an uninterrupted supply of air brain damage occurs,
EXACTLY that way if the supply of Universal Love is interrupted brain damage occurs,
EXCEPT in the individual that becomes a persistent Universal Love emitter, in which case they are their own "air supply."
[Gandhi in prison, Mandela in prison....]

The point?  To deprive one of "air" is violence, right?  Intended OR UNINTENDED.  VIOLENCE.

EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER treating another human being WITHOUT LOVE, EVEN MOMENTARILY - IS VIOLENCE!!!!
[Love is TOUGH, or it is not Love.]

"No Double Standards" has been a natural, central pillar my adult life, in business
and personally.  CENTRAL.  Only this week do I fully understand why.

The "double" / second standard is NOT Love, and the first Standard is Love.
 
The "double" standard, the second standard is VIOLENCE - Death - ALWAYS.  WAR.

"''Without Love it IS NOTHING'.*' Don't GIVE it; Don't ACCEPT it." SL

"''Without Love it IS NOTHING'.*'
Don't GIVE it; Don't ACCEPT it."  SL

* Corr 1 ch 13

"We are Divine creatures, that have been crippled to Death by our toxic culture." SL at the suggestion of K

"We are Divine creatures, that have been
crippled to Death by our toxic culture." 
SL at the suggestion of K

"The OUTCOME is NEVER the miracle. The ATTEMPT is the Miracle, always." SL

Sitting with my brother Macias today after my morning shift at the
Vigil (prop1.org) taught me this:

"The OUTCOME is NEVER the miracle. 
The ATTEMPT is the Miracle, always."
  SL

My brother Macias is on Hunger Strike day #40, or thereabouts.
He is fighting for immigration reform - NOW:

Youth Rally & Mass for Life 2010 - Hunger Striker
Risks All for his Brothers & Sisters
http://www.youtube.com/user/RodolfosBrother
http://rodolfomacias-sanews.blogspot.com/
http://www.youtube.com/user/mysanews

Water only.  I watch him get weaker and weaker every day.
I watch him get thinner and thinner every day.

I've watched him here in DC, alone, far from his San Antonio home
for 6 weeks or so.

Away from his friends, family, support network.  Living in strange
homeless shelters.

The repeated robberies of his belongings - hasn't slowed him down;
hasn't dampened his spirits; hasn't seemed to effect his spirits.

DC is filled with well funded organizations with a "supposed"
Interest in Immigration Reform.  ZERO SUPPORT.  ZERO CONTACT.
ZERO INTEREST.  Macias goes on, undaunted.

HIS ATTEMPT, IS A MIRACLE.

HIS COURAGE, IS A MIRACLE.

HIS GOODNESS, IS A MIRACLE.

HIS KINDNESS, IS A MIRACLE.  (He regularly brings FOOD for me,
from the shelters, so I am not  hungry.  Think about it.  And he
insists that I eat, while we work together on his campaign.  Think
about it.)

HIS FOCUS, IS A MIRACLE.

HIS ENDURANCE, IS A MIRACLE....

The Miracle wasn't the end of apartheid, but the endurance of
Mandela and others.

The Miracle wasn't the liberation of India, but Gandhi's endurance,
and that of others.

The Miracle wasn't major victories over Texas polluters, but Diane
Wilson's endless courage and sacrifice for the cause.
http://www.youtube.com/dianewilsonsfan

The Miracle hasn't been the termination of Mountain Top Removal,
but these s/heroes faithfulness to the cause.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcnV5TkHm3k

Have you reached out to him?  Have you helped him?  Have you
ATTEMPTED to get him help and support?

http://www.youtube.com/user/RodolfosBrother
http://rodolfomacias-sanews.blogspot.com/
http://www.youtube.com/user/mysanews

Start


"War is to Take Control of your Mind: Peace Makers Return it to YOU." SL

"War is to Take Control of your Mind:
Peace Makers Return it to YOU.

[Jesus was a Peace Maker;
not so the Church of the last 1900 years.]"
  SL

2.02.2010

SL here. To the True Friends - Thank you

Thanks for your help recently, you True Friends in the Attempt.

1.  I'm told by one of our heroes in West Virginia that all are now
out of jail, ON BAIL, in part due to the solidarity actions of some
of you.   (vid below)

Two Heroes Languish in Jail. Crime? Fighting for you. Mountain Top Removal.
I have no credit card, so the donations I've accumulated these
last several years, mostly $1 bills from school kids that came in the spring
this year (prop1.org), along with all my belongings that they can use,  have
to be sent to an address, that only today I was able to secure from
them ClimateGroundZero.org.  I'll be sending all that I own (the laptop I use
is not mine) that isn't essential to the prop1.org vigil tomorrow.  My point? 
These heroes -
 
A.  are now just beginning the COURT BATTLES - IF NO ADDITIONAL
$$$, GUESS IF THEY WILL BEAT THE MULTI-BILLION $ MASSEY ENERGY
IN COURT, IN COAL OWNED WV. UHHHHHHH?????;

B,. These Tough-Loving Warriors ARE JUST STARTING THEIR WORK,
you heard in the vid (below) - now they plan to expand to other 
MTR sites throughout Appalachia.  The Revolutionary. War Soldiers
were kept alive by citizens like you.  For God's sake, for YOUR sake,
FUND RAISE FOR THEM.  PLEASE.  THESE FOLKS ARE THE GLOBAL SPARK
FOR TRUE CITIZEN ACTION ON A WHOLE HOST OF ISSUES - THAT WE
NEED, THAT WE WILL DIE WITHOUT !!!!

2.  Thanks for your PROMOTIONAL help.  In part thanks to you this
channel jumped last week from 8,000 viewings per day to more than
35,000 per day.  We Friends are using this SL2 Chan as a powerful
platform for TRUTH, for SANITY!!  Just tonight you quickly, you True
Friends have given us a chance of being a strong moderator of the
debate about Pr. Obama's BRILLIANT NASHUA SPEECH TONIGHT. 

Pr. Obama (1 of 8) - Town Hall Nashua NH http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJ0tcU-q04I

ANYONE THAT IS WATCHING SHOULD know by now THAT ANYONE
THAT ISN'T STANDING, STANDING, STANDING SHOULDER TO SHOULDER
WITH PR. OBAMA - WILL GO DOWN IN INFAMY.  He IS the greatest
leader in the History of the world.  IF YOU COULD PICK ANYONE IN
HISTORY TO BE OUR CEO AT THIS TIME IN HISTORY - OBAMA IS THE
EASY, OBVIOUS CHOICE - ON EVERY DIMENSION.  WHATEVER GOD
IS, OBAMA IS A GOD-SEND.

barackobama.com - !!!! NOT ANYWHERE ELSE !!!!, IS WHERE WE NEED
TO UNITE, TO BRING OTHERS, TO FOCUS AND LEAP HUMANITY OUT OF
THE PYRE, AND ON TO A LEVEL OF SALVATION ONLY DREAMED OF BEFORE. 

CERTAIN HELL IS THE DEFAULT, IF YOU DON'T.  ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN.

Your brother,

Start

Two Heroes Languish in Jail. Crime? Fighting for you. Mountain Top Removal.

"Start, are you trying to be like Gandhi, King, Jesus...? :-)" "Hell yes! Aren't you!?!?!?"

"Start, are you trying to be like Gandhi, King, Jesus...? :-)" my friend
asked, trying to bring me down a peg.

"Hell yes!  Aren't you!?!?!?"  Unless we get a bunch of Gandhi's, King's,
Jesus's, Eleanor Roosevelt's, Diane Wilson's, Col. Ann Wright's...
running around, we're screwed for good!

THESE FOLKS DON'T DIE TO BE WORSHIPED!!!!

THESE FOLKS DIE TO BE JOINED   !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Not the Rethugs but the Lip-service Liberal citizens are destroying US

continuing a dialog with cc on this vid
Pr. Obama (1) - The Peoples Interview on YouTube.

[MLK Jr reached EXACTLY the views expressed below, 50 years ago.  Hmmmm, yes,
he expressed it a bit differently.]

ENTROPY WINS BY DEFAULT!!!!!
[[[TODAYS]]] RETHUGS ARE THE PARTY OF ENTROPY!!!! 
[McCain's mom disowns today's Rethugs.]

We have no excuse not to know this.

IF THE LEFT DOES NOT ACT - THE RETHUGS WIN, WIN, WIN BY DEFAULT.

!!!!! AND !!!!! THE RETHUGS ( / TEA PISSERS) ACT, AND WE DO NOT!!!!!!!

THE BLOOD IS ON OUR HANDS FOLKS. ALL OF IT.

THE RETHUGS OF TODAY ARE DUMB BEASTS - CLINICALLY; ACTUALLY; IN FACT - I'M BEING
HONEST AND ACTUAL, NOT SLANDERING OR UNKIND. They ARE my brothers and sisters.
NOTHING BUT DEATH IS TO BE EXPECTED OF THEM.

BUT WHAT OF US - WHAT OF THE LEFT?

WE ARE DESTROYING AMERICA WITH OUR INACTION.

ENTROPY WINS BY DEFAULT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Devote at barackobma.com now, or kiss America goodbye.

It may be too late already. 

But maybe not.

[For those of you like Gandhi and me that have a profound regard for the views
of Jesus note the email to K below.]

Barack's not
quitting. Me
either.

SL

------------- email to K, a sheroic NE Lawyer serving the oppressed -----------------

RE:
Hey K - when you have a second

Don't let me distract you from your fires.

>>> CLICK HERE.  TRUST ME <<<

Regarding my replies this morning on your two long emails:

Was Jesus just being cute, or mean, or symbolic, or un-brotherly...
when on MANY occasions he DID NOT ENGAGE IN DIALOG / NEGOTIATIONS,
responding instead with silence, departure or HARSH REBUKE????

NO!!!!  It was the proper, the only constructive response to "Folly,"
"Blindness,"  "Evil,"  "Hypocrisy,"  "Satanic Spirit...."  Pls recall the MANY
occasions that Silence or Massively Harsh Words or Departure / Ignoring
were his response. OFTEN!!!!!!

Those that worship, not Our Father, but the OTHER father ARE OUR
BROTHERS AND SISTERS, but to treat them as though they were of Our
Father is to DO THEM INJUSTICE, AND HARM.   LIKE GIVING CRACK,
OR ALCOHOL TO AN ADDICT, OR A CIGARETTE LIGHTER TO AN INFANT.

Children that have selected Satan (thinking it is Our Father) FEED
ON GENUINE ATTENTION, AND THEY USE
DECEPTION TO BLEED OUR FATHER'S CHILDREN TO DEATH.
"They will kill you and think that they do Our Father's will."

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER do I try to convince you.  The Truth is between
you and Our Father.  HOWEVER, when something is CLEAR to me
I'll speak accordingly.

Love you.

Start

ps:  My conviction also comes from lifelong practice and study of
just this issue, as a psychologist, enterprise leader, change agent,
brother....



2.01.2010

SL here. My dad took an axe to the furnace

We lived on the edge of a many thousand acre nature preserve.
Unspeakably idyllic.

After a storm one day, 5 year old (?) Start was in the woods, heard
a rustle in the leaves, and found a baby robin that had blown out
of its nest.  Robbie.  All the science known at the time apparently said
that a baby robin would die away from its mother.  We did not find
the nest.  A shoebox is what we found and I brought Robbie home, and
it thrived, and when we taught it to fly, it came when we called,
and we'd dig worms for Robbie for supper.

Almost everyone in this most affluent of towns I grew up in was,
hmmmmm, afraid of, or put off by my dad.  He was dour, profoundly
intense, entirely reserved, zero small talk, entirely focused.  Yet
he was a teacher's teacher, literally, and in addition to the affluent
students that paid handsomely for him to teach them piano,
teachers from around the country flocked to our home, with his studio
attached, to learn his teaching methods.

During his fall session, studio packed with teachers, alone working
with them, on a brief break he became aware of noise downstairs and
investigated.  Robbie had flown down the chimney flue, entered the
furnace flue and was in the furnace.  It had not yet ignited.

My dad was as smart, self reliant, clever as they come.  I never asked
why there wasn't some other way, but if there were, he'd have
taken it.  Now mind you, he worked from dawn till bed time, earning
money to please my mom's exorbitant tastes, and to provide what he
wanted us kids to have.  And, he did this 7 days per week, 365 days per
year.  Oh, we'd take a 1-4 week family vacation - but he felt we couldn't
afford for him to come, he'd stay, and teach, from dawn, till bedtime.  I
recall only a few exceptions.  Money, for us to have it, was real, real,
important to him - every penny.

He took an axe to the furnace, destroying it, frantically trying to save that
bird, that hadn't cost us a cent.  Robbie.  Must have taken him
weeks of work, or more, to pay for the replacement.  He never gave it a
thought.  The bird's Life is what he valued.  Still makes me
weep.  That's what his Love was, for the world, for us all.

"Lovingly I must be that piece of sand to the oyster. You too. Hurry." SL

"Lovingly I must be that piece of sand to the oyster.  You too.  Hurry." SL

"I was among the Dead, those not brought to total dedication to serve, by the needy." SL

"I was born and raised among the Dead, the all but the few of us
who are not brought to total dedication to serve, by the needy.
Ultimately, my dad's Spirit, the Spirits of Teresa of Calcutta,
King, Gandhi, Jesus..., and the teachings of Adler, Maslow, Tolstoy,
Csikszetmihalyi, Rogers, Sorokin... Saved my Life.
If I'm speaking metaphorically, that is NOT how it
feels to me.  TOTALLY it feels like the difference
between Life, and Death."
  SL

"Start Loving or Stop Living. Its your choice. Not much time left. Agape." SC

"Start Loving or Stop Living.
Its your choice.
Not much time left.
Agape." 

SC (this Beloved Sister is exactly right).

"Start Loving or Stop Living. Its your choice. Not much time left. Agape." SC

"Start Loving or Stop Living.
Its your choice.
Not much time left.
Agape." 

SC (this Beloved Sister is exactly right).

"WAR IS THE ANSWER WE'LL GET, TILL TOUGH-LOVING IS THE ANSWER WE GIVE." SL

"WAR IS THE ANSWER WE'LL GET,
TILL TOUGH-LOVING IS THE ANSWER WE GIVE."  SL

'The job of the citizen is to die for the common good.' Gandhi synthesis

'The job of the citizen is to die
for the common good.'
Gandhi synthesis, consequence of his reading of
"Unto This Last," by John Juskin, one
of the two books that created the
man named Gandhi.

"My non-violence does not admit of running away from danger and leaving
dear ones unprotected. Between violence and cowardly flight, I can only prefer
violence to cowardice. I can no more preach
non-violence to a coward than I can tempt
a blind man to enjoy healthy scenes.

Non-violence is the summit of bravery. And in my own experience, I have
had no difficulty in demonstrating to men
trained in the school of violence the
superiority of non-violence.
As a coward, which
I was for years, I harboured violence. I began to prize non-violence only
when I began to shed cowardice.... A rabbit that runs away from the bull terrier
is not particularly non-violent. The poor thing trembles at the sight of the terrier
and runs for very life. (YI, 28-5-1924, p178), M.K. Gandhi.

More here: Gandhi - Give me a military man



"Love is TOUGH, or it is not Love." SL

"Love is TOUGH, or it is not Love."  SL

SL's FROM ALL HISTORY DREAM TEAM PICKS FOR 2010: 1ST - Pr. O; LAST - Today's Americans

SL's FROM ALL HISTORY DREAM TEAM PICKS FOR 2010:

1ST - Pr. O;

LAST - Today's Americans

"WAR IS NOT THE ANSWER. TOUGH LOVING IS THE ANSWER." SL

"WAR, COWARDICE ARE NOT THE ANSWER, EVER.

TOUGH-LOVING IS THE ANSWER, ALWAYS" 

SL

"All mean exactly the same: 'Peace-Making,' 'Non-violent Action,' 'Tough-Loving.'" SL

"All mean EXACTLY the same thing:

'Peace-Making,' 'Non-violent Action,' 'Tough-Loving.'

Wage Love, or die.  No 3rd option any longer exists."
  SL


"'What got SL here? I grew up in a war zone. I wanted to die many nights." SL

"'What got SL here?  
I grew up in a war zone. 
I wanted to die many nights."  SL

I Adored my mother.  My poor, desperately sick
younger sister had her constantly under massive
psychological, viciously hostile, SCREAMING attack.
I totally didn't know what to do TO MAKE IT STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(And now I weep at the recollection.)
Violence (non-Loving) was not within me;
Nor was a REMOTELY sufficient
capacity or competence for Tough-Loving.
I just didn't know how, had not undergone the training.

I've been unwilling to remain incapable, incompetent.

My TOTAL AND COMPLETE HORROR at
war / NEEDLESS SUFFERING is ever more acute,
as is my recognition that it IS THE TOTALLY WRONG ANSWER.

Obviously my forecast was off. (Brain)-Storm not yet over. :-(

Spam bucket me, or bear with.  Can't last much longer.

"NEVER 'Peace,' but rather TOUGH LOVING is the Goal; 'Peace,' the desired CONSEQUENCE." SL

"NOT 'Peace,'
but TOUGH LOVING (aka non-violence)
is the GOAL;

'Peace,' the desired CONSEQUENCE.

The GOAL was NOT the end of Crippling;
but rather the eradication of Polio.
We know the Blessed Consequence of this Goal.

Wage Love, or die, no 3rd option exists."
 
SL

"Peace is not the absence of Tension,
but the presence of Justice." 
MLK Jr ?

"'Peace Activist,' like 'Friend, 'Surgeon,' 'Pilot...' means NOTHING self-declared." SL

"'Peace Activist,' like 'Friend, 'Surgeon,' 'Christian,' 'Pilot...'
means NOTHING (or Death) self-declared.

Character, Competence, COMMITMENT,

SECOND BY SECOND PERFORMANCE / BEHAVIOR...
IS WHERE WE MUST LOOK FOR THE TRUTH OF SUCH WORDS.

'Anyone can be great, because anyone can Serve.'  MLK Jr.

'The least among you shall be the Greatest.'  Jesus

Thomas.  Gandhi.  MLK Jr.  Dave Dellinger.  Phil Berrigan.
Col. Ann Wright.  Mandela.  Diane Wilson.  Rodolfo Macias.
Liz Hourican. ClimateGroundZero...."
  SL