Blog

NOTICE: SOME OF MY POSTING IS ON FACEBOOK: STARTLOVING1

My most personal Thoughts: sloving
(Start Loving, the pka for James McGinley)

The most crucial posts: *****

Photo album: here

EFLIUS (Exploring For Life In US): here

11.13.2010

"Start, a dear 'Friend' just was massively cruel. Have you advice?"

"Friend, I'm honored and glad that you asked. I do feel I have a view worth sharing, but of course you'll need to decide its applicability and validity for you.

Most of my life to date I'd be deeply impacted by mean or cruel behavior directed toward me. But not, thank God, at all for 8 years or so now. Zero. My Heart hasn't hardened at all in that time, quite the opposite. But my Understanding of Life has grown ever so much.

Here's how the breakthru for me came. Someone had been just hideous to me, and the thought that came to me was - 'Uh, under what circumstances would Teresa of Calcutta (substitute your own personal hero of Humanity) have behaved that way to me?' 'UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE, EVER.' Immediately what clicked was that the behavior was clinically "sick," "ill...." I happen to be trained in psychology so understand that I mean "clinically" sick; I'm not throwing stones. Well, in seeing that I was receiving sick behavior, two things happened within me then, and since in such situations: 1. I no longer took it personally, which if I did, would paralyze me with hurt, rage, self-doubt..., and 2. It put my relationship to the inflicter in perspective - they were sufficiently unhealthy that a "healthy" relationship with them was obviously impossible, massively unlikely, unworthy of the time and effort....

Soooo, with all this did I then, and do I now in such situations respond instead with a sense of superiority? Does a good MD feel superior to a sick client? NO! But with the clarity I've just outlined to you I'm able to move on emotionally to the Life of Service where Joy is to be found, and not get bogged down. And, I've learned the humility that Jesus had, "no one comes to me except that the Father brings them." Such sickness that can be so hurtful IS NOT CURABLE DIRECTLY by us. It just isn't. AND IT FEEDS ON THE ATTEMPT BY THE WOUNDED PARTY TO HEAL IT! Sooooo, I just move on. If Our Father, Fate, Chance softens / heals the heart of the wounding party at some future date, YAHOO, I'm there to celebrate! But I leave that in Our Father's hands, and move on, realizing that by refusing to get derailed by cruelty done to me, and devoting myself to folks that desperately need, and can absorb my Loving service, I'm being the Light that could possibly lead to a regrowth of Humanity in the person that was horrible to me.

I don't know if this is helpful to you at all. If it is somewhat helpful, but provokes another question or so, please feel free.

Your brother, sl

ps: Of course, with all I've said above, of course this was enormously hurtful to you at the time, but I think it needn't be hurtful going forward.

"Christlikeness turns entirely on 'Family' definition. All Humanity Jesus defined it as. You?" SL

"Christlikeness turns entirely on 'Family' definition. 
All Humanity Jesus defined it as.  You?"  SL

"800 million of Our Family in India exist on $.50 per day or less." SL

"800 million of Our Family in India exist on $.50 per day or less."  SL

11.12.2010

"Among the most anti-Christlike is anti-gay discrimination. Heterosexual lust is infinitely more deadly." SL

"Among the most anti-Christlike is anti-gay discrimination.
Heterosexual lust is infinitely more deadly."

SL

God Bless Cindy: Cindy McCain splits with John on 'don't ask, don't tell.' Meghan's with mom.

http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Politics/The-Vote/2010/1112/Cindy-McCain-splits-with-John-on-don-t-ask-don-t-tell.-Meghan-s-with-mom
Seriously.

Cindy McCain, wife of Sen. John McCain, publicly objects to military's 'don't ask, don't tell' policy on gay service members. The senator has helped block legislation to repeal it.

Sen. John McCain and his wife Cindy McCain speak to reporters outside a polling place in the Phoenix, Arizona, Nov. 2.

Joshua Lott/Reuters



"What if Everyone awoke to see the poor as their child. Hope, our Only Hope is to effect this. Hurry. Be the Change you need to see in the world." SL

"What if Everyone awoke to see the poor as their child. 
Hope, our Only Hope is to effect this. 
Hurry.  Be the Change you need to see in the world."  SL

11.11.2010

NYT: Outspoken Chinese Risk Confinement in Mental Wards

Outspoken Chinese Risk Confinement in Mental Wards

Du Bin for The New York Times

11.10.2010

This, is Living - Nobel winner’s family, friends targeted in China - thestar.com

Canada will attend the Nobel prize ceremony in Oslo, Sweden, for dissident writer Liu Xiaobo despite Chinese government anger.

"From age 10-48 the Female Body was my Universe, Entirely, Degenerate." SL

"From age 10-48 the Female Body was my Universe,
Entirely, Degenerate."  SL

11.08.2010

[Each a US Funded War Crime] Reuters - Israel plans 1,300 homes in Arab East Jerusalem | Reuters

JERUSALEM (Reuters) - Israel is pushing ahead with plans to build 1,300 new apartments for Jewish families in Arab East Jerusalem, the Interior Ministry said on Monday, despite fierce opposition from Palestinians. The

Jerus Post: Greatest Global Threat is US Taxpayer funding of your War Crimes against Palestine

Hecklers protesting against occupation of West Bank, loyalty oath interrupt PMs Jewish Federation GA speech where he says Teheran is greatest threat to the world, sponsors terror in Lebanon, Gaza.

"Greatest Global Threat: Unhumanity, Criminal Neglect of US citizens." SL

"Greatest Global Threat: 
Unhumanity, Criminal Neglect of US citizens."  SL

"Post Election I'm Doubting US's Worth Saving, or Capable thereof." SL

"Post Election I'm Doubting US's Worth Saving,
or Capable thereof."  SL

"Bearing Witness Heroically Dwarfs Demanding Whatever." SL

"Bearing Witness Heroically Dwarfs Demanding Whatever."  SL

11.07.2010

NYT Krugman: Democrats, TAKE A STAND!


Gaza scrap gleaners risk life in tense border zone | Reuters

BEIT LAHIYA, Gaza Strip (Reuters) - A Palestinian was wounded by Israeli forces on Sunday while collecting scrap from a no-go border zone in the Gaza Strip, the latest casualty in the blockaded enclave's

"That US could let the ReThugliFascists back in, Dead already we were." SL

"That US could let the ReThugliFascists back in,
Dead already we were."  SL

New GOP governors kill $1.2 Billion in high-speed rail jobs


Cornerstone of Zionism is to Conquer, Not Negotiate